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Interesting Reads & Links

Blog Links :

1. https://thesocietypages.org/pubcrim/2016/05/17/celebrating-a-massive-failure/

I loved this entry because I found it to be so true. The time men have spent behind bars shouldn’t be celebrated but reflected upon and very seriously thought about.

2. https://thesocietypages.org/families/2016/11/16/mass-incarceration-is-family-policy/

This entry was a good read to me simply because mass incarceration is a social issue that I find a lot of interest in. It not only effects the incarcerated person but the family also.

3. https://thesocietypages.org/pubcrim/2012/04/17/longing-to-get-way/

Reading this entry made me a bit sad. Iincarcerated youth and adults have been hurt so deeply that they look for an escape in illegal activity and drug use. Their way of seeking attention.or a temporary leave of pain.

A. I recently came across a powerful music video about drug and alcohol addiction entitled ‘Drug Dealer’ by Macklemore . It was extremely touching and opened my eyes to the struggles of addiction that even celebrities face. They are human and regular people too.

B. Macklemore’s ‘starting over’ is another video on drug addiction, which is another social issue I am most interested in.

C. ‘Otherside’ by Macklemore. Yet another music video based on addiction. I love all three videos because they are powerful and are of an area I am most interested in. They promote social change.

Recovery is key.

My Audience

As a future possibility, I imagine my readers to be domestic violence survivors and possible victims, as well as, youth and young adults who struggle with substance abuse. I think that the people who have gone through these situations are more likely to read about what I have to write about. Even others who aim to work within the same field of study and have similar aspirations as mine. I am able to identify with their experiences because I have seen and gone through similar situations first hand. And of course there is always a time I come across someone, whether it be at work or in my person life, sometimes even a friend who feels comfortable enough to confide in me about similar issues, whether it is with them specifically or within their family

Recovery is key.

The Interview

I recently chose to interview my boyfriend who unfortunately spent a majority of his youth in jail/prison. Him and I have know each other for years, since grade school. We have already had talks about the subject before hand but never focused too much on detail or on what’s next for him and the both of us as a couple. For the interview I’ve asked questions regarding his future, goals, and expectations for himself.  I am a bit interested in his past  but also how that experience has changed him and what I can do as his friend and girlfriend to further motivate him for a successful future.

  1. How would you describe your childhood self ?

Hardheaded ! I got myself into trouble both in school and out.

2. Entering your teen years, what did you see yourself doing or becoming ?

Honestly at that age I never even really thought about it. I didn’t think too much about my future. I just wanted to have fun.

3. What led you to make the decisions that ultimately put you in jail ?

Being so young, I was more worried about partying and having fun. I got so caught up with the crowd that I guess I forgot I had my own mind. By the time I realized that I was on the wrong track and just doing the wrong things it was too late.

4. If you could, would you go back and change the choices you’ve made, if so why?

To be honest sometimes I wish I could go back and do things a little differently by making better decisions. But, then again I believe that everything happens for a reason and that that was the consequence of me being young and dumb. You know, but no matter how much I wish I could go back, I can’t and i’m okay with that.

5. What are some of the goals you now have for yourself ?

I want to eventually go to college and be married and have a family. I want to get and hold a great job to support my family like a man should and be able to give my wife the world. I think that the biggest goal of mine though is to just be happy and to be able to make my mother proud.

6. What have you learned ?

Man, I’ve learned so much. Like where do I begin. I feel like prison really changes you in so many ways. I was able accept the fact that I was wrong for doing what I did. The pain I caused my family and the things they’ve had to go through, I still think about. I learned to be a man and how to succeed in life as a man the right ways. I let go of things, people, perceptions, negativity. I have gained a sense of responsibility and have learned not to hide my emotions because of what others may think about me. It’s been a really rough road but I manage to remain positive.

7. Would you say you are more mature, if so how ?

Of course. I know how to make decisions in life with balance between both reason and emotion.

8. What is your plan to fulfill your goals, despite your past ?

I don’t necessarily have a plan. I just live and go with the flow. I learned a long time ago that nothing goes as planned so I just go with the flow of things. I do try to make the best decisions for myself though, because I have my family and of course you to think about.

9. What motivates you ?

My mother, my older brother and sister, my nieces, my nephew, and you. You all are a constant reminder that I have to do better in order to live better.

10. How are you ? Would you say that you are currently on the right path ?

I am good. I mean it’s tough because many people look me and see me as a criminal. But I have so much to offer, so many things I want to accomplish, and at the end of the day I am a good man who is human and who has made mistakes but had also learned from that. So I will remain positive and I will always be good.

Kathy DiFiore

Kathy DiFiore is the founder of the Several Sources Shelters. She received her undergraduate degree in psychology from the University of Rochester in 1969. Ten years later, she received her her MBA from NYU and is currently studying for her doctorate in Education at the University of Phoenix online. From 1970 to 1978 she was a member of the NY State Advisory Committee to the U.S Civil Rights Committee. Her business career included holding the position of Personnel Director, American Express, Credit Card Division and Personnel Director at Degussa Chemicals Corporation.
In 1981, after spending some time homeless herself and following the end of an abusive marriage Kathy DiFiore chose to open up her home in New Jersey and turn it into a shelter for young mothers and their babies. In 2014, a movie based on a true story of a young women, Agnes ‘Apple’ Bailey, at one of the Several Sources Shelters shows the work and inspiration of Kathy called ‘Gimme Shelter’, staring the beautiful Vanessa Hudgens. A pregnant teen who runs away from her abusive, drug addicted mother and learns to break the bonds of her past and embrace her future after taking refuge at a shelter for homeless, pregnant youth.
Kathy is now operating four residential shelters in New Jersey for pregnant women. She has met with Mother Teresa on several occasions and in 1984 when Kathy’s work was threatened by a $10,000 fine from the state of NJ for operating an unlicensed boarding house, Mother Teresa wrote the governor which helped rescind the fine and change NJ laws so Kathy’s work for the preborn and their mothers would become legal.
Kathy has a book entitled ‘Gimme Love, Gimme Hope, Gimme Shelter’, which is the spiritual and real life story behind the film ‘Gimme Shelter’. She shares her experiences that led her to take great risks for others to ensure that she could provide for young mothers. Through her relationship with Mother Teresa, Kathy found support and courage take on these situations. She is now also working on a second book which is a study guide for the ‘Gimme Shelter’ movie.
Kathy has been award various awards including the NJ State Counsel of the Columiettes ‘Humanitarian of the Year Award’ and the ‘Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Award’ from the United Methodist Church of Newark. I, myself, want to be a Kathy DiFiore. She is an inspiration to me and I hope follow in her footsteps and accomplish some of the sames things she has. I want to help, lead, and make a huge impact and difference in the lives of others and my community. ‘Gimme Shelter’ is also one of my favorite movies and I encourage everyone to watch it. Also visit the Several Sources Shelters webpage if you are pregnant and would like to speak to a counselor .

Link below …
http://www.severalsourcesfd.org

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